Troubling web site - Datingpsychos.com
There is a web site called Dating Psychos that really should be shut down. I have been working with a victim who dated this guy, stopped dating him and he just couldn't deal with it. He's already put up a few, I got them taken down, he called Animal Control where she lives and claimed she abused her dogs - the dogs were taken away and were going to be euthanized, but she convinced Animal Control that this guy was out to ruin her life. This guy has also called the Social Security Administration on her claiming she's a prostitute trying to get them to investigate her and some other things. It got so bad that she tried to commit suicide a week ago.
I was finally able to talk to an FBI agent in the state where the victim lives and this agent is appalled by this web site. She is going to find an agent in the bureau closest to the victim, but now the cyberstalker has put up a new profile on the Dating Psychos web site that lists her home address, home phone number, photo and more. She's been getting phone calls from men looking for sex. What does it take before one of these whackos comes to her door and forces his way in and rapes and/or kills her?
I told the victim to call the FBI agent (I also called the agent and left a voicemail) and also her local police, who have been no help whatsoever to her. She also tried her local DAs office, but he never returns her phone calls and probably thinks this is just some minor "Internet thing."
I am very concerned, not only about the victim I'm working with, but some of the other people who have had profiles put up on this web site about them. One is a woman with children and the children's photo is on the profile, along with contact information.
This site is truly frightening - the owner doesn't give a shit (he's been contacted by the victim and by me and refuses to do anything); the server hosting the site won't respond to emails or phone calls and I am tearing my hair out. If the site owner does contact the victim, he demands $25 before he'll pull the profile. The last time I looked, that's extortion and is illegal.
I want to make sure this is publicly known - all means to get this profile taken down have been taken by the victim and me. The web site owner is negligent and should never have put the site up in the first place.
The FBI is doing what they can, but until an agent shows up at the victim's door to interview her, she has to live in fear for her life.
I can understand being pissed off at someone you dated, but this site goes way too far and someone will end up injured or dead as a result. If it's my victim, there will be more than hell to pay.
I am hoping the public and maybe the media will put pressure on the web site owner to pull the web site completely, or revamp it so that it's not so harassing and threatening. He's too much of a coward to list his real contact info on WHOIS (web site owner registration), but the email he lists on his web site is J-Dog.
Help me get this site to stop exposing people to harassing phone calls and possible physical injury, rape or death.


8 Comments:
JDog used to respond to threats from genuine psychos and wrongly posted people to take it down...
Now you have to PAY him at least $25 to get it taken down. He does no background checks, nothing. Nor does he police the site for slander or libel in the posts or comments. At least psychosandplayers.com is a LOT more responsible about it.
I can understand those who are posted on this sites only because someone was merely angry with the person and is now putting up lies.
However, I have posted someone on DatingPsychos myself and I feel this person is one of those the site was originally created for. He is a sociopath and "downlow" boy who lies to women about his bisexuality, possibly exposing them to HIV, or some other std. As far as I can tell he hasn't been on anymore "dating" sites trolling for new victims since the post went up.
Lani - I understand being upset with someone, but posting their info on a web site, no matter what they did to you, is just not right. There are legal options you can follow if this person is exposing women to HIV, etc. I just hope you didn't post his personal contact info on that site, because that can be considered harassment/stalking and you could get in trouble yourself. I wouldn't want to see that happen.
JA - considering that our site exposes Online Predators who prey on other adults, we have no problem with exposure sites. However - we draw the line at posting someone's address, phone number, place of work, social security - etc.
Our article: http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/12/02/193150.php
explains our view of it.
But, sites like DatingPsychos don't offer a legal release like we do and don't police the information... therefore anyone can post anything... even if its slander.
On our site on the right hand margin, we have a list under EXPOSE them of sites that are more responsible. And warnings about ones that aren't.
Posting someone can be a first step in validation and healing. Sandra Brown, MA and other counselors who deal with the aftermath of pathological relationships recommend doing this and we agree. However, keep comments truthful and no personal information.
Here's an article about another site to avoid: http://enpsychopedia.org/index.php/Womansavers
Fighter- with precautions in place like what you have, I don't have a problem with your site. Kudos to you!
Thanks, Jayne.
We had one of our exposed predators post one of his victims on the site - along with the names of her minor children, her address & phone and tell people to stop by her house for sex so her children can watch. BTW, this victim? Is seriously disabled and has PTSD from this man. She finally called the police, who did nothing. We helped her educate the police and helped her write her own c&d and send copies to the police and the FBI (the predator said he was going to "finish her off") and ONLY with the C&D did law enforcement take her seriously.
JDog seems to have no clear disclaimer on his site and yes, asking for money to remove improper postings and eventually, he will be sued out of business.
We tell our victims that want to open up sites specifically about their cyberpath to THOROUGHLY READ www.eff.org (Blogger's Rights) and The Citizen Media Law Project for what they can and can't do online as well as employing COMMON SENSE. Posting should be done as a way to educate the public & validate yourself. Revenge always backfires.
Unfortunately, JDog fuels the revenge. And its equally hard to take down the information once someone has posted it, time goes by, and they forget their sign in informaton. Also it is next to impossible to remove comments, some of which are actionable, from what we've seen.
(BTW - belated congrats on your marriage!)
Fighter - thank you for the belated congrats. We're having our reception party in a week and I'm going crazy, ha ha.
The Gentleman has violated the restraining order several times but when I call the police they tell me the same thing" There is nothing we can do, our hands are tied". And it sucks.
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